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UniT 7 THE FAMILY AND PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT

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            The family that Vicky and Jason grow up in is probably the largest single influence on their development. Were their births planned and welcome? How old were their parents? How well do the personalities of parents and child mesh? Are the parents healty? Are they wealthy or poor? How many people live at home?  Influence travels in the other direction too. Children also effect their parent in untold ways, transforming parents day-to-day moods, priorities and plans for the future-even a marriage it self.                 
            Family life for both Vicky and Jason is quite different from what it would have been a century ago, and family life is likely to change even more in the future. A child growing up today is likely to have only one sibling, a mother who works outside the home, and a father who is more involved in his children’s lives than his own father was; and to receive a considerable amount of daily care from non relatives, first in caregiver’s home or day care center and than at preschool. Today’s children have a 40 percent chance of spending part of their childhood with only one parent’s probably the mother and probably because of divorce.
            These changes have revolutionized the study of socialization how children learn the behaviors their culture considers appropriate. In the past, most reseacrhes focused on mothers and their children, but now researches are studying the bounds between children and their fathers, their brothers and sisters, their grandparents, and other caregiver’s.
            Another fascinating trend in research is the focus on the entire family. How does Ellen and Charles’ marital relationship affect the relationship that each spouse has with Vicky? Do Julia and Jess differently with Jason when either one is alone with him yielded provocative findings. For example, when both parents are parents and talking to each other, they pay less attention to their child. In some families, the spouses closeness to each other detract their ability to be close to their children; in others the parenting experience strengthens the marriage tie. By looking at the family as a unit, we get a fuller picture of the web relationships among family members.


Glossary
Mesh                                       : menghubungkan
Moods                                     : suasana hati
Personalities                            : kepribadian
Considerable                           : banyak/besar
Sibling                                     : saudara
Non realtives                           : tidak ada hubungan kekerabatan
Caregiver                                 : pengasuh anak
Preschool                                 : masa sebelum sekolah
Childhood                               : masa anak-anak
Divorce                                   : perceraian, bercerai
Attention                                 : perhatian
Spouse                                     : suami/istri
Detract                                      : mengurangi
Socialization                            : pemasyarakatan
Behavior                                  : tingkah laku
Tie                                           : mengikat, ikatan
Influence                                 : pengaruh
Probably                                  : mungkin
Century                                   : Abad
Appropriate                             : Sesuai/tepat
Involved                                  : melibatkan
Researches                              : penelitian
Bounds                                    : batas
Fascinating                              : menarik
Entire                                      : keseluruhan
Yielded                                   : menghasilkan
Among                                    : diantara




Exercise 1
Answer the following question
1.    1. Is there any relationship between the family and personality development?
Yes there is. Because family is the first place to develop our personality.
    
2. 2. What factors influence the children development?
 Method of parents educate their children and children environment.

3.   3.What are the roles of parents for their children?
To give their children a good education and help to develop their children personality.

4.    4.  What are the differences between the ancient and the recent family life?
 The recent family life study of socialization how children learn the behaviors their culture considers appropriate. But, in the past most researches focused on mother, and their children, but now researches are studying the bounds between children and their father, their brothers and sisters, their grandparents, and other caregiver’s.

5.      5.Why can the spouses closeness lessen their ability to be close to children?
 Because of when both parents are talking to each other, they pay less attention to their child. It may detract their ability to be close to their children. In others the parenting experience strengthens the marriage tie.
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UNIT 4 ON BEING SHY How I Wish I Weren't Shy ! Preview the topic

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     How many times have you felt angry whit your self because you were too
shy to speak up when you really wanted to have to conversation whit others
person ? Are parties times for standing in the corner and watching others
chat and dance - afraid to join them ? Do you listen to discussions but do
not give your opinions because you think you are not smart enough ? Do
you WIsh you be friendly but don't know how? All these thoughts lead to
unhappy feelings.
     This kind of unhappiness comes about not because other people are
trying to hurt us. We make this unhappiness for ourselves . Naturally we
really don't to hurt ourselves, but often we group up thinking we are not as
good as others- we are inferior; everyone is better, smarter, and more
interesting. These negative thoughts make us shy . Why do we do this to
ourselves? Only a psychologist can discover the reasons . It is interesting to
note that very large numbers of people are shy. There is , however good
news . If we want to get rid of shyness , it can be done.
     We can help ourselves be rid of shyness. Nobody is perfect and
everybody has good qualities. Is it fair to pay attention to our imperfections
and overlook our good qualities ? Definitely not! The following suggestions
may be helpful in reducing shyness:
1. First, understand that you cannot eliminate shyness overnight. It is a
slow process that you must work in gradually .
2. Think about situations when being shy is most painful. Perhaps your
biggest problem is making small talk with a stranger at a party . In that
case , prepare yourself whit some interesting current news to talk about
The weather is a topic often used for starting conversations.
3. Getting the other person to talk about himself/ herself is a clever idea.
Many people enjoy talking about themselves - or giving their opinions.
For example, you can say something like, "I notice you like modern
jewelry; your rings are very unusual. Did you design them yourself?"
This can be the start of a friendship.
4. Whenever you begin making negative comparisons between yourself
and others , force yourself to stop doing that immediately . Take your
thoughts of yourself. Observe others and think of a compliment with
which to start a conversation with someone.
5. If you are shy at work where there are many coworkers, choose the
least intimidating person to the perhaps have coffee with or make casual small talk with.
6. Knows that if in effort to socialize sometimes is unsuccessful, it
happens to everyone now and then. Feel proud of yourself for making the
effort.
7. If you are required to give a report to a group, tell them that you feel
nervous. This feeling is quite natural , and everyone can sympathize.
Expressing that the group will make you feel better.
8. Think about your good qualities and believe that you are as good as
anyone else .... Because you are!
9. Take a course in developing self- confidence or read books on the
subject.
Life is much more enjoyable for people who are not shy.
 Exercise 1
1.      Is it difficult for you to ask strangers for the directions or information ?
Answer : No, because if we need some information or direction, we don’t be shy to ask strangers the information or direction.
2.      Do you let others make decision for you because you are afraid to speak up ?
Answer : No, we must be brave to speak up for our self.
3.      When you are with people who talk with others easily , do you wish you were able to do that ?
Answer : Yes, we wish we were able to do that. Because, we can get a motivation and try to walk with other easly.
4.      In what situations do you feel Shy and uncomfortable ?
Answer : we feel shy and uncomfortable if we do something wrong and we are in distressed situations.
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UNIT 2 , SIGMUND FREUD

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Sigmund Freud was an Austrian doctor who explored the workings of
the human mind .He developed psychoanalysis, which is both a way treating
neurosis, or mental disturbances, and a theory of how the mind works.
Freud was born in Moravia, now part of Czechoslovakia. When he was
four, his family moved to Vienna, Austria. Freud entered the University of
Vienna when he was 17.One day he attended a lecture on nature. He was so
fascinated that he made up his mind to become a doctor.
Freud became interested in diseases of the mind. In 1885, he won a
fellowship to study in Paris under the guidance of a doctor, Jean Martin
Chariot, who was famous for his work on this kind of diseases. The next
year, Freud returned to Vienna, married, and began to treat diseases of the
mind.
Freud ha great insight into the human mind .He thought that every
person is born whit certain needs, he said, are unconscious - people are not a
ware of thinking a bout such needs. Freud named the part of mind
controlling these instinctive unconscious needs the id, and said that person's
id operates to give pleasure.
Freud also said that, as we grow up from infancy, we acquire an ego, a
collection of memories and thoughts that help us deal with the word around
us. We continue to grow, and from the teaching of our family and society,
we develop a superego- a conscience. Our superego and id often push in
opposite ways .Our ego usually reduces this conflict by helping us to get
pleasure without "hurting " our conscience.
But if a person unconscious thoughts and needs are very strong, they
may cause unusual behavior, or neurosis. Freud's treatment for neurosis is
psychoanalysis (examination of the mind), a method for uncovering these
unconscious thoughts and understanding how they cause problems, Freud
thoughts that dreams - even dreams that seem to make no sense- are a very
important clue to understanding the mind.
Glossary
Explore : menyelidiki
Neurosis ganguan mental                                                                                                                 Disturbances : gangguan
Fascinated : tertarik, terpesona
Diseases : penyakit
Fellowship : beasiswa
Insight : perhatian, wawasan
Unconscious : tidak sadar
Id : keinginan, nafsu
Ego : tindakan untuk mendapatkan keinginan
Superego : norma (yang mengontrol tindakan/ego)
Pleasure : kesenangan
Infancy : masa kecil
Acquire : mendapatkan
Uncovering : menemukan
Developed : membangun
Thought : berpikir
Lecturer : dosen
Exercise 1
Answer these following questions based on the above text,
1.      When was Sigmund Freud born?
He was born in Moravia, now part of Czechoslovakia on 1856
2.      How old did he die?
He died when he was 83 years old
3.      What was he concerned whit?
He was concerned with explored the working of human mind
4.      When did he join University? What major did he study?
When he was 17. The major he did study was a doctor ( diseases of mind )
5.      Why did he want to be a doctor?
Because he was so fascinated that he made his mind up to become a doctor
6.      Who is jean martin chariot?
Jean Martin, who was famous for his work on this kind of diseases
7.       According to Freud, food and drink are unconscious needs .Why did he
say so?
Freud said food and drink are unconscious needs because every person is born with certain needs, he said, are unconscious-people are not aware of thinking about such needs. Freud named the part of mind controlling these instinctive unconscious need the id, and Freud said that person’s id operate to give pleasure.
8.       These needs, he sad, are unconscious - people are no aware of thinking
about such needs. What does "dash" (-)" mean?
Explain what unconscious is
9.       Mention the examples of conscious needs and don't forget to explain
each.
Nature is what we are consciously aware at certain times, such as direct sensing, memory, thoughts
10.   What do id, ego, and superego mean? Explain by giving examples of
each?
Id=awisor longing                                                                                                                     EXAMPLE :  an increase in hunger or thirst should produce an immediate attempt to eat or    drink
superego=somethingwhichcontrollinganact                                                                       EXAMPLE : warn and ban because the food was not hers, taking items that do not belong is not  good or sinful.
Ego=anact to get desire                                                                                                              EXAMPLE : started to organize themselves. His position became difficult, ego-driven id (lust) to satisfy immediate needs (eating food) in any way, while the super-ego forbade him to act because of its moral basis.
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